None other than the National Science Foundation and the University of Chicago, came out with a study that showed women are reporting that they are cheating on their husbands more than ever before. The number, while still only half that of men, is dramatically higher. In fact, the rate at which women are cheating has tripled in just 15 years, going from 5% in 1991 to 15% in 2006. So in the space of 15 years another 10/100 women have decide to cheat on their men. To be fair, the male infidelity rate has also gone up from 20 to 28%, a 40% increase in 15 years.
Anyway you look at it men and women are cheating on each other more than ever in modern history.
As usual I think I’ve cracked the code to this puzzle. In my book Crack the Guy Code, I write about how men and women who don’t find a balance between work, home and play will eventually find themselves up a creek when trouble hits.
Says Tom Smith director of the General Social Survey at the University of Chicago, “Their employment patterns are more like men, and you would suppose other behaviors would follow.”
Women are working more than ever and in essence becoming more like their husbands. Which is to say increasingly distracted and sidelined by their work, their phones and away from what’s most important to them and their families. Email, texting and social media all seem to take us all away from meaningful, face to face conversation.
With the current financial crisis at hand one can only wonder where these trends will take us. Will there be more infidelity? As husbands lose their jobs will they become more insular or take stock and re-connect with their wives? Will wives find themselves working more and more distracted from their marriages? Will the recession lead to more broken relationships? Only time will tell.
The Chicago Tribune and LA Times websites had a story on a study showing that men love the color red. This in spite of the fact they say that we don’t know that red turns us on!
The study was published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. The scientists took female pictures and framed them either with a white or red border. They then asked male volunteers to rate the attractiveness of the women. The red border was the hand downs winner when it came to the men rating the beauty of the women.
As an aside, it’s interesting to note a possible explanation for this. Blood equals red. It has long been known that women’s skin turns darker when they ovulate. If This color change comes from increased blood flow to the skin, that would explain much.
Me: Well, I think this pumpkin may not do. It doesn’t look right.I said.
Hannah: Why don’t I write something up and let’s see how it turns out?
Me: OK, then.
Phyllis, Hannah, Al and I all had a great time carving this years pumpkin. When Hannah and I went out to get it, I wasn’t even sure what I wanted. Did I want a tall one, big one, small one, or fat one? The one thing I thought I knew for sure was that I wanted one without any blemishes. Quite frankly I wanted one that looked perfect on the outside like the ones we had gotten before.
So when Hannah and I got to the store and picked the pumpkin, I was undecided on whether it would turn out OK. You see it had all kinds of warts and one long crease in the middle of the pumpkin. The crease was so prominent that it looked like a belt!
This reminds me that just because a relationship or situation looks ugly, it doesn’t mean you should abandon it. Things can get better. They are never as bad as they seem. All you have to do is step back and look at the situation with fresh eyes. Abandon any of your previous notions and give the situation, person or relationship a second look. Everybody deserves a second chance.
And so it was. I gave the ugly pumpkin a second chance. Took it home and carved it with my family. Hannah wrote the plan out, Al approved, and I carved it. If you check out the picture below or my Crack the Guy Code channel, on YouTube, you’ll see that we used the crease as the mouth and put simple fangs on the crease with great effect. Luckily no daddies or mommies were harmed in the carving of the pumpkin!
Have you seen those ads recently where the woman is climbing on the sheer face of some mountain in the middle of nowhere when she gets a call?
Who’s the call from?
Could the call be from her boyfriend? Mother? Sister? Brother? Doctor? The answer to all of these is a big fat No, No, No, No and No!
The call is from her banker!
I think the banker is calling to tell her that she’s overdrawn or not overdrawn or some such thing. Either way, was taking that call so important? Besides, who wants to take a call from a banker these days? Why not let it go to voicemail? Is it that important that she has to take that call? Geeze! Come on!
A million things could go wrong while she’s on the phone:
She could drop the phone on another climbers head
She could get distracted lose her footing
She lose her concentration and slip and fall
Whether or not the geniuses behind the commercial knew it or not they were making one of the central points of my new book, Crack the Guy Code: 8 Hidden Secrets No Guy Wants You Know – And Every Guy Secretly Wishes you Did! You can get a sneak peak of this book here.
The central point is that we all need to take a step back (not the rock climber!), take a deep breath and evaluate our priorities. Do you have to be such a slave to your phones (admit it, you’ve got at least three) that you have to stop what you’re doing to take a Robo Call?
Just as many things can go wrong with your life while your so busy answering the phone:
It seems like every month there’s a new story of an ancient civilization unearthed by archeologists. What archeologists seem to learn the most from is the garbage left behind!
That’s right.
These scientists can learn an unbelievable amount from the detritus left behind by our ancestors. Everything from earthen ware to ancient toilets can tell scientists many things that they didn’t know before. This isn’t surprising given written communication wasn’t as prevalent thousands of years ago. I Imagine 100 years from now, historians will not only go through our garbage but our texts and emails to see what we we’re truly thinking.
With that being said there was an informative article written by Ellie Tesher in The Naperville Sun recently concerning a husband accidentally going through his wife’s emails and texts and finding that she was fed up with him.
It’s my opinion that the husband (let’s call him Colombo) didn’t come upon these by accident. For whatever reason, he has no way of talking to his wife that works for him and her. He’s left sifting through the detritus of what his wife feels is a dead relationship. Kind of sad when you think about it.
Ok, so I’ve watched CNBC’s coverage of the financial crisis far too much and have come to a profound conclusion:
The politicians, pundits and wall street wizards have no idea what’s going on in our economy.
These same geniuses have no idea how to get us out of the current economic mess
Men like Henry Paulson and Ben Bernake watched us get into the financial crisis and said nothing. Their good friends and colleagues gladly helped us get into the financial crisis.
Now these same clowns are in charge of fixing it.
If that isn’t enough to scare the be jabbers out of you then I don’t know what will. It seems things are worse than reviews of recent M. Night Shyamalan movies. Have you see The Happening? www.thehappeningmovie.com/ Now that’s scary!
There are things that we can all do to ride out this storm and come out the other side better:
Never see a M. Night Shyamalan movie ever again
Generate CASH from more than just your job or the stock market
Check out the video above and I think you’ll see some provocative statements made by one American man. How he came to these statements is interesting in and of itself.
Now that you’ve read the article, what do you think? I’d love to hear your thoughts so please feel free to comment and put in your two cents.
Is that what you’re thinking? Are you sure about that? Satoshi Kanazawa in Why Beautiful People Have More daughters warns of the moral fallacy. The fallacy is that by decrying so called bad human behavior invalid will ultimately get you no where in your study of human behavior. I for one wish to get somewhere in my studies, so I’m going to look at this phenomena with a clinical eye and I suggest you do the same.
What are the facts of the sugar daddy/sugar baby lifestyle choice?
Women gives man “companionship”
Man gives woman money
Many will say that this is akin to prostitution but I would ask that you consider what’s really going on inside the sugar daddies mind:
They are rich men who could easily get a date
They are rich men who could easily get married
They don’t have to pay for it if they don’t want to
If they wanted to pay for sex they could easily do it
So then why do these rich men prefer sugar babies?
The answer is simple. They want to know exactly what their girlfriends want. Their sugar babies want money and/or to be pampered like princesses. Sugar babies have a simple agenda that doesn’t involve plans for “her” wedding with 300 people that he doesn’t know at a wedding that stands only a 50/50 chance to last.
Sugar babies simplify his life. That’s it. Nothing more nothing less. It’s all any guy wants in a relationship. That is to know exactly where the relationship is at any given moment. There is an incredible clarity in being a sugar daddy that regular dating relationships could never give a guy.
Is there anything wrong with being clear in ones intentions for a relationship? Maybe if men and women were clearer at the beginning of their relationships there would be less need for counseling and divorce at the end of it.
When I wrote Crack the Guy Code: Unlock the 8 Hidden Secrets No Guy Wants You to Know-and EVERY Guy Secretly Wishes You Did!, I had no idea the cool people that I would get to meet and interact with. One of the coolest had to be Adryenn Ashley, unabashed author of Every Single Girl’s Guide To Her Husband’s Last Divorce and Spotting The Kooks.
When told of my book, she told me that it was a great idea and that she would love to say something about it. With that being said here’s what she had to say:
If only this book was around when I started dating! Crack the Guy Code is a ‘must-read’ for anyone looking to skip the frogs and get right to their prince!”
~ Adryenn Ashley, award-winning author of Every Single Girl’s Guide to Her Future Husband’s Last Divorce and Spotting the Kooks.
I have met some amazing people over the years but none more rags to riches than Jordan Adler. When I asked him to take a look at my book, and see what he thought, he didn’t hesitate. He got back to me the very next day with his thoughts:
“If you thought you knew everything there was to know about men and what makes us think, think again! Alan Bentley sheds new light on the age old question of what the heck is going on inside your guy’s head. Thanks, Alan! Great book!”
Jordan Adler
Author of Beach Money, Entrepreneur
www.thecoolbuzz.com
From underpaid airline pilot to one the countries top network marketers Jordan knows success and teaches others how they too can be successful.
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