So last Friday I featured a Yourtango video on Sydney Australia and what’s going on there in the minds of Australian single men. Single Australian men of any age apparently have their pick of young 20 something women for dating and mating.

The question is what to do if you are a single 30-40 year old woman dating for love and can’t get Mr. Right to even talk to you because of this?

Well, there are several things you can do, some of them drastic and some of them not so much.  Some are good for your health and others not so much. While still some may even get you a better job!

Here are my list of fixes to put you in the catbird seat and get men begging you for a date when you find the competition too hot to handle while out in the dating pool.

1. Move
2. Get in the shape you were in your early twenties
3. Plastic surgery

Let’s take my fixes one by one.

The global market for jobs right now is a mess. Those same twenty something women stealing your men will no doubt steal your job next so why not move to where they can’t do either?

You may have lost your job so why not take the extra time you have to get in the very best shape of your life? Hiring managers (whether men or women) prefer good looking men and women so why not kill two birds with one stone?

Last but not least, older women now have the absolute game changer of all game changers in plastic surgery. There are all kinds of invasive and non-invasive ways for women to look as young as they want.

Men ultimately want to settle down with a smart successful woman so why not give it to them in the best package possible?

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Dating like most aspects of relationships is never easy. Maryanne Comaroto has some great observations about life and love during those magical first 90 days of a relationship. Dating at the beginning is far different than in the middle isn’t it?

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Great video from Your Tango!

Apparently in Australia, all able bodied single men have their choice of young single women. Why settle down to the table when the buffet line is never ending?

If this video makes you angry, I’d ask you to calm down and think about what you’re seeing. These men all look reasonable right? They look employed, well dressed, and reasonably well spoken. They don’t look like they just got out of jail and there were no tattoos visible so I’m assuming these men are well adjusted and giving us their honest and heartfelt opinions on dating.

I’d submit that these men are not trying to be mean or nasty, they are simply following the marching orders inside their brain.

Consider this. The numbers show that college professors have a much higher rate of divorce than men in other professions. Could it be that their exposure to young women at the peak of their reproductive age is just to enticing?

Put these together and you have a preliminary case for the male mind being wired to react in certain ways.

With all this being said, I’ve never seen the point to speed dating or any other situation where you put yourself in line with dozens or even hundreds of other women. I’ve been privy to some research on speed dating and know that relationships coming out of this kind of dating (much less weddings) are far and few between.

What to do?

Well you can get my book or go to my website which go into far greater detail on these subjects!

Or you could wait for my next post on Monday where I’ll reveal what older 20-30 somethings can do to win the hearts and minds of the man that would and should love them.

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To finally get to the point where you and your man agree to get married is a big step in the game of life. In fact it may be the key to the rest of your life! The way you begin your life together will have ramifications for the rest of your relationship.

You begin dating with the very best of intentions and then you take a leap of faith and decide that you want to be with your one and only til death do you part.

To say that dating is the true honeymoon period of any relationship is an understatement. Yet it’s this honeymoon of dating that sets the tome for what should be the rest of your lives together.

It’s my belief that the way you go about dating, relating and communicating in the beginning of your relationships is the key and will set the tone for the rest of that relationship.

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My wife and I still go out on dates. Yes, after knowing each other inside and out, like the back of our hands, we are still dating.

I believe that taking the time to date and “practice” being together is an important life skill whether your single or married for 30 years.

Why is dating so important?

Well given our lack of time and interest in one on one, nose to nose, toes to toes communication these days, I feel that dating is a skill that is more important than ever. If you learn it right from the beginning, I’ll guarantee that your love life and life in general will go much better for you.

It’s important to take time for each other, to stair into your loved one’s eyes and acknowledge them as your one and only. We all need that reassurance that we are loved in a world that can take that love away in a heartbeat. Love it don’t come easy was the quote I think.

Check out this video from Maryanne Comaroto where she talks about good communication while dating and why it’s so important to you future.

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I just got off the phone with a friend who’s at her wits end trying to get a job. It’s been 10 years since she had to seriously look and she can’t believe the extent that technology, namely websites have taken over the job search process. “The process is so impersonal. If I could just get somebody on the phone they’d hire me in a second!”

The funny thing is that the jobs she’s applying for all require a good deal of personal touch where she would have to talk in the flesh, one on one. Yet she’s being screened only by “key words” and how her resume looks on paper.

How can any company properly hire somebody this way?

I think the bigger question for your life, is how can you go about dating this way?

So how does this apply to dating?

Technology has made our lives so much easier that it’s easy to forget the way things were. It seems like just yesterday when I got my first cell phone some 12 years ago. Back then, you could only call with the cell phone and even then calls got dropped all the time.

Now we can call, text, email, listen to music, watch TV and who knows what else.

All of this would seem to make it easier to go out and date, meet that special someone and eventually get married and live happily ever after. Whether it’s old fashioned dating or online dating, technology has made it much more convenient on the surface.

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Another great video from Maryanne Comaroto on what a single guy named Mitch is thinking as he lives his life looking for the girl of his dreams. This video is great in several ways:

• He talks about what he could have done differently in his youth
• He talks about how his view on life and love has changed over the years

It’s worth noting that while Mitch wishes he listened more in his early days, he now has less patience for drama. I imagine Mitch won’t won’t hang around long if the woman he’s with is “difficult”. At the same time, he wants to listen more and be more understanding of the woman he’s with.

For some men, any kind of difficulty is an excuse for them to bolt while for others, they’ll stick with you to the end.

The point Maryanne was trying to make is that you should be prepared for either guy that may come your way while dating. The love bug hits when you least suspect it and you might as well be ready to date and then marry the man of your dreams.

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It’s funny how you can find inspiration and knowledge in the strangest of places. Just the other day I was reading Victor O. Schwab’s great book “How to Write  Great Advertisement” written in 1962.

Near the end of the book Schwab talks about the differences in behavior among men and women. For instance he says that men think “longer haul” and that their thoughts flow in more of a tide. Women on the other hand think in much shorter time frames and more “sharply punctuated by separate events”

Women care about the immediacy of events like dating, marriage and the resulting social standing from all these important events. Men for their part are usually no where near as concerned with these kind of events and just go with the flow.

With all this being said I think women should consider what might be on their dates mind:

• He hopes the movie will be good and that you’ll like it
• He hopes he doesn’t make a fool of himself

I bring this up because these are things that might not concern you as a woman. So while you might be thinking about “connecting, falling in love, or sizing the guy up for marriage” your date simply wants to see you smile and be happy with the night of fun he provided.

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So yesterday I talked about Paige Wiser’s Chicago Sun Times column on why women should rule the world.

Paige has an 8 point list that was really no surprise to me.

I agree with everything Paige has to say with one very big caveat:

• If women are superior to men at politics, management, and leadership why haven’t they taken the mantle up?

Now Paige gives the answer in her column and I repeated it in yesterday’s column but it bears repeating:

• Women have better things to do!

The question to me is why?

While the answer to this question may never be fully elucidated,  I think I can provide a starting point based on science.

Scientists have gone back and looked at death records and determined that men across the world live fewer years than women. During times of war and conflict this is easily explained by all the slings and arrows that men take for the women that they love and protect.

Science has also shown that in good time and in bad, with war and without, men live shorter life spans. This is partly explained by man’s proclivity towards bad habits that ultimately result in their undoing (smoking anyone?) But this only partially explains it.

One of the other explanations is again based on looking at past data.

For instance, men who live with women live longer and live more productive lives. These men make more money and have a better sense of well being.

Those men who choose a life alone will live some 5 years less and make significantly less money.

The last observation that I want to mention is the fact that men have 1300 fewer genes than women. This occurs on the most manly gene of all, the Y. This also explains why men die from a variety of genetic diseases that don;t show up in women. Fortunately or unfortunately, the Y gene has given up much in it’s pursuit of manliness. It’s sacrificed the farm, given up the goat, and bet everything on being a man.

Some would argue that this is barbaric or that men have to forsake their manliness or some other silly thing, but I would beg to differ.

I would argue that it’s precisely because of the Y’s sacrifice that we all find ourselves alive today. it is this sacrifice that allowed our ancestors to survive multiple ice ages, earthquakes, meteor strikes, hurricanes and even the Bush Presidency.

I guess in the end if I were a woman, I’d have much better things to do to!

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My first question is what in the hell happened to Justin Timberlake?

I found this video while searching out cool videos about gender differences. OK maybe not cool but certainly provocative, right?

The video features a Dr. Phil love child/Justin Timberlake wanabee named Dick who thinks women are inferior to men and goes even further to say that women love dating him. They just can’t get enough!!

All kidding aside my mom cut out Paige Wiser’s Sunday column in the Chicago Sun Times for me and I’m glad she did. The title of the article is appropriately named “8 reasons women should rule the world” Paige lays out the case for why women are better at certain things than men.

What are those those things?

1. War
2. Maturity rate
3. Blood flow to the brain
4. Peripheral vision
5. Smell
6. The ability to find common ground
7. Multitasking
8. Patience (Women have waited long enough)

Paige quotes Dee Dee Myers “Women tend to to be better communicators, better listeners, better at forming consensus”

One just needs to follow the life and times of Martha Stewart and you would be fast convinced that women are superior!

I won’t deny any of this but this begs the question “Why aren’t women running the world already?”

Furthermore what would Dick think?

I’ll answer this in tomorrow’s post so good night for now.

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