Bullock see’s all as fair in love and…stalking.

Sandra Bullock is one of the most beautiful and desirable women in the world so it’s little wonder that she might have something to say about love and dating.  In fact, she feels that if a woman desires true love,  it’s just fine for that woman to stare and stalk a man until he falls in love with her!

Now I have to say that I had no idea she would advocate stalking and staring at a man before dating him as a way to lure him in. I figured she would maybe say that dating is serious business and one should go about it thoughtfully with love and marriage as the end game. Yet she doesn’t do that.

She advocates going for it. She thinks that women should aggressively research their prey before they get into a long term relationship and I for one think that’s great. Everybody should look deep into the person they have fallen in love with and get to know them inside and out before they get married.

Of course In all fairness, nothing will prepare a couple for all that life will throw at them. Men  and women can only learn so much no matter how long they end up dating. Surprises will come up in any relationship so the trick is to stay connected and in love so that any challenge can be met head on.

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Hope you like this great dating and communication video.

Yet more reasons why dating and texting don’t necessarily mix. Long term love will never be built on a cracked communication foundation. Face the fact that you and he will eventually have to speak nose to nose, toes to toes. The longer that day comes, the worse your aspects for true, everlasting love.

Dating and communicating don’t have to be so hard!

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Liz Tucillo’s videos get better each time I watch them. Each one more insightful than the next. I can’t help but think that her dating life will end soon and she’ll find the love of her life.

Just like Liz, American women seem to hold themselves back. They have to have all the stars aligned to get married or fall in love. It’s as if they restrain themselves before they can qualify the marriage “candidate”; even before they”ll go dating the guy.

And this is why American women struggle. Not willing to lose themselves in a relationship or get hurt, they never open themselves up to true love. Even when true love comes a calling, their love doors are closed, address unknown.

Of course as I always say, love and dating don’t have to be so hard. All you have to do to is be open to all that love may bring. Having been married 16 years now, I full well know all that love, marriage and dating has brought to me. While it hasn’t exactly been Ozzie and Harriet, it has brought me the greatest gift a guy could ever wish for: true love.

And for that I am truly grateful.

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SkyJohn doesn’t hold back…as usual. His dating tips can be sharp, insightful and some might say offensive, but he never lies. He gives dating advice that’s straight from the heart and I for one appreciate his heartfelt honesty.

Today’s video is no different as he talks to a beautiful plus size woman about dating and relationships.

While you’ll no doubt form your own opinions, I just want to point out two things that can go a long way towards you finding the man of your dreams:

1. Men like dating all shapes and sizes of women. The trick is to find the one that likes your shape and size.
2. Don’t lie about your shape and size. Near the end of the video SkyJohn points out that he hates it when the online dating profile doesn’t match the actual woman he’s about to date.

Dating doesn’t have to be so difficult no matter what your size!

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Editor’s Note: I’ve been lucky enough to get, Maryanne Comaroto, internationally know relationship expert and radio host, to guest blog once a week for the next ten weeks! What follows is pure dating and relationship gold that’s been mined from the deep and fertile depths of Maryanne’s rich experience. This dating gem begins from where yesterday’s post ended!

The deal with leakers is knowing how to tell them from the likers. Unless you are a leaker junkie, like dating leakers, and have no intention of quitting. For the rest of you, here are a few tips that will help you navigate the dangerous waters of telling the leakers from the likers.

? The first time you meet and/or date a leaker, he/she will make you feel like you are the most special person in the whole world, forgetting where you are, as if you are the only two people in the whole room/train/dance club/world. You might never eat or sleep again, or at least will check your email (VM, whatever) 10 times an hour to see if they called, twittered, pinged you. Like a crack addict waiting for his junk. VS The first time you meet a liker you feel curious, a subtle yet particular interest to know more; you recognize their personal boundary and respect it, feel their reciprocal awareness of you but are not overwhelmed by it. You are left with a warm feeling.

? The leakers leave you feeling insecure. VS The likers leave you feeling good about yourself.

? The leaker’s affection isn’t exclusive to you and you start to wonder what you are doing wrong or what is wrong with you that you can’t keep their attention. VS The liker behaves this particular way in your presence alone, cordial and social to others but qualitatively different.

? The leaker moves fast. VS The liker isn’t in a hurry; they know what they want and will wait.

? Leakers are exciting but get bored and indifferent easily in the dating game. VS Likers are more like a slow burn, not so quick to jump, they ramp up, like the buildup and are into sustainability.

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Editor’s Note: I’ve been lucky enough to get, Maryanne Comaroto, internationally know relationship expert and radio host, to guest blog once a week for the next ten weeks! What follows is pure dating and relationship gold that’s been mined from the deep and fertile depths of Maryanne’s rich experience. This dating gem will conclude tomorrow so please stay tuned! Today’s post asks what kind of woman are you? Are you a leaker or liker kind of gal?

He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me… and her too? I can’t tell you how many times friends or clients have complained about their disenchanting, painful dating encounters with “leakers.” Men and women who seem so great at first, almost to good to be true and then…wham, bam, ouch, waah…

What’s a leaker, you ask? Or maybe you already know. Maybe you are one. For those who don’t, it’s a term I adopted from my father, tweaked and use liberally when appropriate. It describes someone who leaks their sexual energy—and not in a “good way”; someone who wants you to want them, who enjoys and prefers the chase, the hunt, the rush and the kill. Sounds messy eh? Oh, yeah. It can lure even the sweetest, most naïve person to sell their precious soul for just a taste. They will date you, love you, lead you on, bark up your tree, pursue you like you have never been pursued, woo you up the highest mountain. They are often incapable of intimacy, married or already dating several other people because they need so much attention, are narcissists or just flat out want to hump and dump you because…they can.

Leakers move like liquid chocolate, envelop you with their smoldering languid glances, devour you with their luscious smiles, seduce you with their choreographed confidence until you beg to drown a slow death in exchange for just a sip.

It’s that irresistible something you can’t put your finger on, but you want to be near or keep coming back for more of, ‘cause its feels sooooo good. She/he’s the dating seductress, the hedonist, the junkie, the shadow hissing and whistling, cat-calling you like an ancient siren that renders you deaf, dumb and blind to their intention—which is to eat you up and spit you out. If you have low, loads or no self-esteem, no matter; the leaker’s pull is like a vortex few can withstand as our hearts ache and long for what the shadow only pretends to bring…never-ending passion.

Steamy…right! Yeeeesssss, it’s the best. I mean, come on, who doesn’t want to be the object of that kind of rapture at least once (or once in a while)? I liken leakers to sharks; they command a certain awe, are certainly powerful and dangerous (which is exciting and could, in fact, render me senseless).

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More dating Italian style baby!

Apparently, Italian women have resorted to slapping their Italian men whether they’re married or just dating.

My question then is “Can you slap your way to love and dating happiness?”

My answer is I don’t know. As a guy, I don’t want to be disciplined through a slap. I’m not a big believer in corporal punishment for my kids so why would I want this for me? On the bright side, if a woman thinks enough to slap a man, she must have strong feelings for him.

In the end, my advice would be to take a step back from the situation and then take a deep breath before you resort to man slapping. Once you’ve gathered your wits, try having a passionate yet thoughtful conversation with your man. Let him know that you wanted to slap him silly. If he get’s it, he’ll see that he hurt you and take the right steps.

Dating doesn’t have to be so hard!

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Dating, over 40, and looking for love?

Well there are many women just like you that are in the very same place. Some are hopeful, while others have given up on ever finding true, lasting love.

Wherever you fall in is a matter of choice. You can either go about dating with your chin up and you head held high or not. The choice is yours. Your attitude will determine your dating success. Nothing more, nothing less.

As Matt and Tamsen point out, it’s a numbers game. Just like finding a job or digging for gold, you will eventually find what your looking for if you just give it a chance.

Relax and smile your way through the day and you’ll be surprised at how the differently the world treats you. You’ll become a beacon for others seeking positivity and light. Choose hope. Choose to be different. Choose love and you’ll be surprised at what chooses back!

Dating doesn’t have to be so difficult!

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Editor’s Note: I’ve been lucky enough to get, Maryanne Comaroto, internationally know relationship expert and radio host, to guest blog once a week for the next ten weeks! What follows is pure dating and relationship gold that’s been mined from the deep and fertile depths of Maryanne’s rich experience. Today’s dating gem takes off from Maryanne’s post concerning what you should and shouldn’t reveal in your relationship.

So what to do? What I usually do; I took this show on the road. I gathered a studio audience filled with men (I was pretty clear on where we women stood on the matter) and dragged 40 other men down the rabbit hole with me, determined for them to give it up. To cough up the truth, the whole truth and nothing but…their truth. Thank God (dess) they came along willingly!

Under the right circumstances men will tell you almost anything, particularly when they know you won’t hold it against them—for ransom!!

I started out the show asking men to imagine they are on a date or with their significant other at a restaurant, and a woman/girl/female walks by—an attractive one, at that. The girlfriend/mate notices they were looking just a little bit longer than the normal glance, which in girlspeak is over three seconds and constitutes a stare, which then reflexively triggers her claws and insecurity (if she has any)! Then she says the words men NEVER want to hear: “What are you looking at?” Oooohhhh, every man knows what I mean, too, because this is that moment, that place where they have to decide, should I tell the truth or not? Most men in this group, as it turns out, opt for NOT. Which is no surprise to me, so I press on (like I do) and ask WHY? Why don’t you tell the person you are with, the truth? Set her free, set yourself free. Validate her intuition. She knows it, she feels it, yet repeatedly we dance this dance, this unspoken agreement to keep each other hostage by trying to protect something we ultimately cannot. Our egos.

Invariably, each man told a similar story as I passed the microphone around. They want to say it (the truth, that yes, they were looking and liked what they saw), but they feel that the women cannot handle the truth and they would suffer the consequences or punishment (usually a withhold of sex). So the men decide, it isn’t worth it. (For the record, most women don’t tell the truth because we fear men will leave and we need them to stay, so we too withhold such truths.) I declare to my men that all of the above eventually turns to poison and kills the relationship—a slow, yet lethal seepage of lie-onide. And ask, what, if anything, can be done? and wait to see who cares.
A few brave men raise their hands and say they will bite the bullet, that they are tired of the game – played when dating or otherwise – want to be free and see whether the damage can be avoided with some compassion, patience and valor. My heart swells, I deliver copious hugs and close the show hopeful for all relationships now and in the future.

Dating or not, regardless of the subject matter, I remain a faithful servant to the liberating phrase, The truth shall set you free. And today fill my life with people young and old devoted to the truth, whose hearts swell with compassion and expand with courage to venture towards greater freedom of being. Thanks to those brave men and my devotion to the truth, I am ever grateful and am no longer afraid to lose what is not possible to have. Blessings!

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Editor’s Note: I’ve been lucky enough to get, Maryanne Comaroto, internationally know relationship expert and radio host, to guest blog once a week for the next ten weeks! What follows is pure dating and relationship gold that’s been mined from the deep and fertile depths of Maryanne’s rich experience. This dating gem will conclude tomorrow so please stay tuned!

Many years ago, having been married a brief time, I came home after having had a strong, yet curious, experience. One I was both eager and frightened to tell my husband about, knowing what I had to say was considered a taboo subject. Eager, because I was the taboo-slaying Joan of Arc; frightened, because I had never seen a relationship work when two people dared utter—never mind explore—the truth together.

True to my higher quest, I could not help but venture towards the rabbit hole, alone or not. I felt burdened by my experience and assumed that my partner would have at least some interest in dropping in with me (it was my unspoken ideal of what love looked like—that we care deeply about what is important to each other); at least, I hoped, and dove right in…

“Have you ever seen someone, you know, like on the street, or while you were in your car waiting at a stop light and thought to yourself, hmmm, I wonder what my life would be like right now if I was dating or married to that guy?” I said wide-eyed, rumbling on the brink of fascination. He stood, eyebrows raised, expressionless, poised like a soldier given marching orders, and walked away without saying a word…for two weeks.
Aha. Just as I suspected (frankly, as my mother warned me), men don’t want to hear this kind of thing. They don’t want to know how many men you have really slept with, how many guys you’ve dated, they don’t want the gory details about anyone’s else’s appendages, they don’t want to know you have ever experienced pleasure outside of your relationship with them, if you’re frightened, insecure, needy—and definitely don’t want to hear that you are currently wondering what it might be like to be with anyone else aside from them.

Coincidentally, the same seems to hold true for us women; we aren’t so keen on hearing that our beloved has just fantasized about another life with some other woman (or man). We don’t want to hear that YES he thought that woman who just walked by was GORGEOUS and had fabulous breasts, butt, eyes, whatever. And we definitely don’t want to know if he actually used to DATE her! Nor do we want to hear that lately the relationship isn’t spicy enough, or that they have temporarily lost interest in sex, or are considering that perhaps this is not the relationship they signed on for…and on and on. The possibilities of what we are unwilling or unable to explore or include is as endless as it is difficult!

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