Maryanne Comaroto talks about dating past 50 and what it means to you.
Summary: Worried about dating later in life? Let’s embrace what is, re-frame some and look for the humor in all of it! For example, when we reach midlife most of us are wiser, more compassionate, better lovers, more tolerant, more available, and more confident, and so on.
I recommend you lead with what you are most afraid of; in this case, your age and that you’re moving through menopause, etc.
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Q~ I’m a fifty-something, single, looking to get back out in the dating world. I am not thrilled with the idea of online dating but realize when it comes to the law of attraction, I need to get the ball rolling. The problem is, I am not feeling as marketable as I was in my thirties and forties, never mind my hormones are raging like a teenager—except now, instead of blooming, it seems I am about to lose my blossom. Any suggestions on how to attract a great mate?
A~ I can see the both dilemmas: how do you compete with your own shadow and attract a great partner when you don’t feel exactly on top of your game, and how can you be honest about who you are without focusing exclusively on the negative. This is indeed a delicate balancing act. You don’t want to do what so many of us have, and out-and-out lie or minimize some major themes in your life. Let’s start from a bigger picture: while you may be experiencing great discomfort as you pass through (and up and down and all around) menopause, it’s true that this is a phase, a transient time, just as each day is. Besides, we are so much more than any one aspect of what we experience in any given time, day, phase, moment. It’s a matter of where we focus our attention. I have heard from some experts that menopause can be one of the most magical, mystical times in a woman’s life. The other big-picture thing to realize is that there is nothing to be ashamed of as we traverse each crevice of the human experience, and you can bet your partner is try to fend off his share of the inevitable himself. Essentially we are all in the same boat, and none of us are getting out alive or unscathed!
So, let’s embrace what is, re-frame some and look for the humor in all of it! For example, when we reach midlife most of us are wiser, more compassionate, better lovers, more tolerant, more available, and more confident, and so on.

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