This post concludes from yesterdays and gives you some more great advice on how to make your life and your dating the very best it can be.
4) Post your goals where you can see them! For something to become a habit it takes 40 days of repetition. YES, that’s forty days of reminding yourself who made those annoying goals in the first place. So tack ‘em, nail, plaster ‘em up—the more the better. Put ‘em in a place you will see, until they become as habitual as brushing your teeth. Good idea, put ‘em on your tooth brush. Buy a bracelet, or make something you will wear every day! Get creative. My girlfriend gave me a teddy bear with a timer to help me take timeouts! Silly, maybe? It works for me!
5) Get back on the horse! Just do it! Look, no one is perfect, and this is never the objective. It’s about practice, about replacing self-defeating dating habits and behavior with juicy, practical alternatives that move you towards thriving. So, you fall off the horse, brush yourself off and get back on! The sooner, the better. Don’t waste your time beating yourself up. There is no proof that it helps, and is usually a unproductive waste of time!
6) Half time! Mark your calendar/iPhone/whatever, six months out to check in with yourself! Heck, mark your calendar every month with a pop-up. Send yourself an evite! Hey buddy, how’s that resolution to quit____coming? Maybe it’s time to stop and honor your 3-to-6-month-old clean lungs, slimmer waistline, better attitude, with a little electronic pat on the back! Set it up in advance. Especially if you’re like me, I love little surprises that remind me to feel good about myself!
7) Reward yourself! You deserve it! Think of something that will motivate you throughout the year. Something you want for yourself or maybe your children. Maybe start a retirement or money-market account with all the money you are saving by not buying cigarettes or by partying less (drinks are at least $10 a pop in a club), or taking that money and investing it into a life coach or therapy to help support you in your future success! Taking that vacation you have always wanted. Whatever helps motivate you in healthy ways! As the great reverend said: If not now when? If not you, who?
And, in case you were wondering, yes, I have been less judgmental, and have noticeably slowed down, and am doing my damndest to take everything (including myself) less seriously! As I speak I am sitting in Carmel Valley just overlooking the ocean, about to take a walk with my husband and our dog, Bella, our treat to ourselves for a job well done in 2009. Cheers and blessings for a phenomenal 2010!
Here’s wishing you the very best dating in 2010!
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