Is it that simple? Could their motivation to be the funniest guy in the room be so trite? This can’t be all there is to it?
The answer is yes, yes and yes!
Speaking for all heterosexual males on the planet, I can honestly say that we love to impress women. Some men drive a flashy car while others become comedians. Some build pyramids while others get into a rock band. And still others go into the TV business and try to get on TV anyway they can.
The male mind is programmed to impress women.
How can you use this while dating? Well, if you go out on a first date with a extremely successful man and you find him unable to shut up about himself, know that he is trying his best to impress you. No doubt he’s boring the heck out of you, but you might want to give the guy a second chance and see if his personality comes out on the next date.
As a follow up to yesterday’s Crack the Dating Code post, I thought it only fair to cover the other side of the now infamous dating love triangle, Robert “Joe” Halderman.
You read that correctly. I’m calling this whole farce a love triangle!
What exactly do I mean by this?
As I’ve written about before, the male brain is suspicious and downright jealous of any male that comes your way. His brain can’t help but be jealous. The male brain has never and will never be 100% certain of paternity and as such, jealously guards the females he mates with.
Joe Halderman actions, in my opinion, are a classic example of this jealous behavior. He was dating Stephanie Birkitt at some point and also new that she had had sex with David Letterman. It’s therefore quite possible that his mind was seething with jealous rage and then had to extract vengeance on her former lover, David Letterman.
Now, don’t get me wrong. The guy you’re dating is probably not a raving lunatic, but it’s his brain you’ve got to worry about.
What actions can you take to never engage the jealous male brain? For one, never talk about your former lovers. The guys you were dating in the past are nothing to you and as such should not be mentioned. And under no circumstances should you ever talk about the men you have had sex with in the past. You are a virtual virgin or to put it another way don’t ask don’t tell!
Beyond the tabloid nature of what happened to Letterman, there can be huge repercussions to dating at work. David Letterman’s alleged blackmail brought up just one nightmare scenario but there are many possible problems to dating someone at work:
What happens when you break up?
What happens if he or you cheat with someone at work?
What happens if either of you is in a position of power over the other?
What if your company specifically forbids workplace daliances between the boss and his/her employee?
Unfair or untrue gossip from co-workers
Don’t get me wrong. There are many benefits to dating the boss. You’d be the first to know whatever news is coming down the pipeline and you’ll be the last to go when there are layoffs. And you’ll probably get a better parking space if only because your boss is taking you to work!
Whatever the outcome, it’s probably best to have a plan going into a job. If you feel there might be a connection with someone at work, you’ll probably want to weigh the pros and cons of dating your colleague or boss before you get hot and heavy. Let the other person know your thoughts and feelings and get him or her to agree to a standard of conduct that you both can feel comfortable with.
if you don’t go in with a dating plan, you could very well end up being fired or blackmailed. Dating doesn’t have to be so hard!
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Oct 9, 2009 
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