With Megan Fox’s box office bomb opening this weekend, I thought it appropriate to show the following fun video!

While Ms. Fox may come off like a major league witch (replace the w with whatever consonant you like), there are golden dating nuggets just ready for your dating pleasure.

Megan Fox knows that she can control men…to a certain extent. She has the power of her femininity and she’ll use it as she sees fit. Whether dating or being interviewed, She wants to be the one in control.

My dating guide goes into far more depth, but realize that Ms. Fox is on to something. Wars have been fought over women and they will no doubt help ignite them in the future. I even had a friend in high school confide in me that his father won his mother in a knife fight but I digress!

Here is probably the biggest dating and relationship aha moment you can take from Ms. Fox: While your beauty may get you in the door, it’s your personality that may ultimately show you the door.

Love and kindness come from within and can’t be faked like beauty. Dating with an air of love and happiness in your heart will go a long way towards not only landing a man but keeping him forever.

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Move over Oprah! Get out of the way Dr. Phil!

There’s a new dating expert about to blow your socks off!

His name?

Barney.

No, no he’s not the purple dinosaur!

If there is one show that all women out dating should be watching it’s CBS television’s, How I Met Your Mother, starring NPH otherwise known as Neil Patrick Harris.

How I Met Your Mother is a great show thanks to the all star talent of NPH (Neil Patrick Harris) who plays the star of the show, Barney. Barney gives dating advice with the earnestness and conviction of Maya Angelou reading a poem.

With that being said, Maya Angelou would probably puke if she heard Barney’s dating tips and advice!

So I suggest you program your TIVO and make sure to watch this engaging and entertaining show about the not so delicate interplay of men and women looking for and sometimes actually finding love while dating.

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I suppose I have some explaining to do…

The title to this Crack the Dating post may be a bit misleading but I have a perfectly swell explanation for it. You see, The Young Turks are all up in arms over a California assemblyman and his affinity for spanking female lobbyists…at least that’s what the assemblyman says on open mikes!

The Turks are a bit too sanctimonious for my money and here’s why. They ask indignantly whether it was worth it for these women to give into this politician’s sexual desires for the sake of getting what they want through the California legislature.

I don’t believe for a second that these women were “whoring” themselves out.

Before you get on my case, consider the following points. While men are attracted to youth, women are attracted to testosterone and gray hair. Older men plus testosterone equals politicians. Male politicians become what they are for the same reason guys join rock bands: to get laid.

As far as the female lobbyists whoring themselves out, I disagree. Studies show that women are more attracted to men with more testosterone. If you measured male politician’s testosterone levels, you’d probably find them to be well above average. Therefore, it’s natural for these women to be attracted to men like this.

Here’s my point: Don’t think for second that this could never happen to you while on the dating circuit. Whether dating guys like this or working with them, guys like this will tend to have multiple sex partners. Power plus testosterone equals multiple lovers. Face the fact that you will be attracted to guys like this and be aware before you get ensnared into their webs.

Dating doesn’t have to be so hard!

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Be warned!

Dating at work can be dangerous to your health!

This seems to be the debate for the ages: should you be dating your co-workers?

Matt says yes while Tamsen says no.

I met and married my wife while attending a small Midwestern college, so I understand these very challenges. If a relationship goes bad in a close environment where everyone knows everyone, bad things can happen. My wife and I saw it happen time and time again yet we and others are still married and very much in love.

Then again, I’m reminded of a highly respected and successful female Chicago Board Of Trade trader that fell in love while dating a much younger male trader. He eventually broke it off and she fell into despair and couldn’t work anymore. She was never seen at work again.

While work complicates dating and relationships, there is no reason why it has to ruin them. If you go about the work relationship with love and integrity, no challenge will be too big.

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For those of you out there dating and trying to find the man of your dreams, I thought it would be a good thing to show you what a woman in love truly looks like. What’s going on in her mind? What makes this kind of woman tick? Is she different from you? What makes her so special that a man would drop everything to make her the love of his life?

Well that woman is none other than Maryanne Comaroto! Maryanne has been so nice to guest blog for me that I thought it would be cool to really get inside her head and see what’s going on in there! She couldn’t be more in love with her man so why not take a peak at her thought process?

Well, luckily Maryanne has written a beautiful and moving love poem to her husband that I think really answers a lot of questions.

Of course, don’t hesitate to ask me questions on love and dating if they pop up after you’ve read the poem!

Here is the poem. Enjoy!

For Labor Day weekend, I want to share a poem I wrote for my husband. Blessings to everyone!

Cotton Candy Bouquets

So many dreams

I mistook them for balloons

Streaming through life

Sweeping up their long curly strings in my hand

Wrapping them tight around my wrist

Pulling them down from the pale blue sky

Like cotton candy bouquets

Whenever I felt the whim

Just because I wanted to

Just because I could

It was so easy then

So much fun

I popped them

Sat on them

Pretended I was pregnant with them, tied them to chairs

Tables, my wrist and even my little brother

Then watched them magically float away

I wondered how high they could go

I wondered how high I could go.

I wondered.

I wanted to play in the clouds

So I tried

I jumped as high as I could off everything

I did back flips in gym class

Did cartwheels on ice

And sought out every trampoline I could find

Until one day I flew off my mother’s bed and cracked my head open.

I wanted to fly

So I tried

I swung from the monkey bars with determination and grace

I dared the balance beam with my arms stretched out to the side

I climbed the highest ladders and slid down every slide

Until one day I ran a race and won but was disqualified

I was so excited I had walked back in someone else’s lane

I wanted to Love

And I did

I talked all night until we fell asleep

Kissed until my lips were raw

Made love my very first time and disappeared

Until one day my heart shattered

I watched him drive by that very day with another girl

I wanted to sing ~ Lisa told me my voice was too low

I wanted to be a model ~ Toni told me my nose was too wide

I wanted to act ~ I was afraid I couldn’t remember my lines

I wanted to play music ~ I broke my finger

I wanted to paint ~ Ms Mattis yelled at me because I painted outside the lines

I wanted, I wanted, I .wanted

I wanted everything!

But they told me I had to stop wanting so much

That I wanted to much

That I couldn’t have what I wanted

That you can’t have it all

That I was spoiled and selfish

To quit acting like a child

That life is hard and then you die

That money doesn’t grow on trees

That nobody gave them a break why should they give me one

There are kids starving in Africa- right now.

That it’s a cruel world out there

That your lucky if you have five true friends

That there is only ONE true love

That only 2% of the population will ever be rich

That there it’s us against them

Me against the world

To get over it

That we are going to die in 2012

Who do you think you are? They scorned as I tried to keep wanting.

I didn’t know

So naturally-

I died.

I watched my self fade into the bleak deserted future

My body hardened

My Spirit abandoned

There was nothing left but… play the game

Say yes when you mean no

Be nice to get what you need

Say anything to get what you want

Do anything to get what you can

Take anything you can get

Hang on

Don’t let go

Never say die

Never give in

Never give up

Take the money and run

Bigger is better

Fuck em if they can’t take a joke

I am laughing all the way to the bank

This is mine

That’s mine

These are yours

Those are mine

He’s mine

You’re mine

Wait…

Someone’s coming

He’s coming

Is anyone coming?

Is anyone out there?

And naturally…

I died again

And then one day I cut off my balloons

Me so tired of dying

Me want to live

Me want to celebrate

Me want to perform anyway

Me want to sing anyway

Me want to paint anyway

Me want to play anyway

Me dance ANY WAY

Me vulnerable anyway

Staying open anyway

Heart open anyway

Open anyway

Everyway

Everyday

This day

Right here

Right Now

Finally

At Last…

For my husband David on 1/30/07, and it’s just gotten better since then!
September 4, 2009

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Who says cable TV can’t teach us something?

To promote David Duchovny’s hit cable show, Californication, Showtime has put out this short but sweet video on cougar dating. The video’s stars are several divorced forty something women looking for love while dating in LA.

While dating is never easy, being forty and divorced in La La Land must make for one brutal dating experience. One woman tells of a guy getting her number and then wanting naked pictures while another cougar talks about dating a guy her son’s age.

No, no…dating can’t be easy in southern California!

Other considerations for cougars are generational differences and how to best communicate with a younger generation. The cougar with the 23 year old son knows that emailing and texting are his preferred way of communication so she has a leg up on most cougars. That being said, she may still need to communicate with her young boyfriend by phone and God forbid in person. So dating challenges still exist.

As long as your realistic about dating someone no matter what their age, you’ll be in a good position later on down the road when relationship challenges present themselves.

As always, dating doesn’t have to be so hard!

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I’m always on the lookout for anything that can help my members find and keep true love while dating, so I hope this video form Dan And Jennifer helps fulfill this mission.

Here, Dan and Jennifer talk about the secret code of men they call the Man Code but which I like to call The Guy Code. I agree with much of what they say, but I would like to take it a step further and discuss the real reason why the Guy Code goes unsaid.

The real reason?

It’s simple. Guys don’t like to express their feelings while dating so the Guy Code provides a emotional shield from revealing their true feelings.

But enough about what myself, Dan, and Jennifer have to say. What do you think?

As always, dating, love and communication don’t have to be so hard!

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Editor’s Note: I’ve been lucky enough to get, Maryanne Comaroto, internationally know relationship expert and radio host, to guest blog once or twice a week for the next ten weeks! What follows is pure dating and relationship gold that’s been mined from the deep and fertile depths of Maryanne’s rich experience.

This dating diamond concludes yesterday’s RAT post by giving you the exact questions Maryanne likes to ask of those she counsels to better dating lives! Just as you are one man away from dating nirvana, you are also just one or two questions from pure relationship bliss.

Q 1 When is it okay to date someone who is already in a relationship?
1.Human beings are not monogamous creatures
2. As long as they don’t really want to be with that person
3. I’d rather wait until they are available

Q 2 How long should you wait before you get sexually intimate with someone?
1.It depends on how well I know the person
2.If it feels good, do it
3.Two or three dates, unless it’s love at first sight

Q3 Does it matter how someone’s relationships have ended in the past?
1.Some people just bring out the worst in each other
2.That was then and this is now
3.I am attracted to people who keep their side of the street clean

Q4 Does God matter in a relationship?
1.Not believing in God doesn’t make you a bad person
2.I think it’s key to a relationship to be spiritually compatible
3.To each his own

Q5 When you should bring up marriage or commitment?
1.Be upfront about what you want; you both deserve that
2.You should just go with the flow
3.Not until you’re sure it won’t scare them away

Q6 At what point do you talk about kids or birth control?
1.Love me, love my kids; and know that whatever I do, I am responsible for
2.If you have ‘em, wait to bring them up; if you don’t, wait until they mention it
3.Have a condom and don’t say anything you’ll regret later

Q7 When and how do you talk about STDs?
1.I would assume someone would tell me if they were sick or had some disease
2.ASAP and gracefully
3.You can tell when people are clean and healthy—and always bring a condom

Q8 Does it matter if someone you are with has been incarcerated?
1.Everyone deserves a second chance
2.As long as it wasn’t murder
3.Depends on what for

Q9 Does everyone need a purpose in life?
1.I just want them to be happy
2.Absolutely—or in sincere pursuit
3.As long as it isn’t me

Q10 Do you believe in Happily Ever After?
1.I don’t need to anymore
2.I believe in the pre-nuptial agreements
3.Sure, who doesn’t want that?

Tally up your points with the key below and mail your score to info at maryannelive dot com, and we’ll send you the results. Find out if you need an X-termination, need to lay off the cheese, or if you are a cheese connoisseur!

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Q 2: 1). 3 points, 2) 2 points, 3) 1 point
Q 3: 1) 1 point, 2) 2 points, 3) 3 points
Q 4: 1) 1 point, 2) 3 points, 3) 2 points
Q 5: 1) 3 points, 2) 2 points, 3) 1 point
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Q 10: 1) 3 points, 2) 2 points, 1) 1 point

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Editor’s Note: I’ve been lucky enough to get, Maryanne Comaroto, internationally know relationship expert and radio host, to guest blog once a week for the next ten weeks! What follows is pure dating and relationship gold that’s been mined from the deep and fertile depths of Maryanne’s rich experience. Today’s dating gem will as always conclude tomorrow so please stay tuned! This post looks at the life of one good man and how it touched so many.

I went to a memorial this week. A friend passed away suddenly; a shock to us all, but to none more than to his bride of twenty-some years. My heart went out to this brave woman and her three children who watched her life change dramatically without any warning. She told me that it was all so surreal—that one day he was laughing and telling her a story that made her laugh so hard she was crying, and the next day she was watching him curl up in a fetal position, and then he was gone. Just like that.

Yet at the reception after the memorial, instead of drowning in her tears (which we would imagine is what most of us would do), she wanted to talk about what a great, loving father and husband he was. How funny and generous he was. How many people’s lives he touched, and how blessed she was to have had twenty years with him. And while yes, her eyes were puffy and blurred with mascara, as sad as she was, she was genuinely grateful and proud to have spent this chapter of her life with such a man. You could feel it was true.

On the ride home tears spilled down my cheeks, as the truth of her words about her husband were also true for me, in a smaller yet significant way. This man has indeed touched my life, his generosity and beautiful spirit has definitely made a difference to me and my family. And then I felt this wave of inspiration fill my heart. A reaffirmation of why I do what I do and do it with such passion. To help people find what my girlfriend found with her beloved husband, however long they were blessed to share that together.

People ask me all the time how to have a great relationship, how to date successfully, or meet someone and start a healthy dating pattern. I usually ask them the same two questions: What do you want, and what are you willing to do about it? Then I direct them to my Relationship Aptitude Test, or RAT, which helps you smell a rat—or find out if you are one. It’s multiple choice. Take your time.

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Bullock see’s all as fair in love and…stalking.

Sandra Bullock is one of the most beautiful and desirable women in the world so it’s little wonder that she might have something to say about love and dating.  In fact, she feels that if a woman desires true love,  it’s just fine for that woman to stare and stalk a man until he falls in love with her!

Now I have to say that I had no idea she would advocate stalking and staring at a man before dating him as a way to lure him in. I figured she would maybe say that dating is serious business and one should go about it thoughtfully with love and marriage as the end game. Yet she doesn’t do that.

She advocates going for it. She thinks that women should aggressively research their prey before they get into a long term relationship and I for one think that’s great. Everybody should look deep into the person they have fallen in love with and get to know them inside and out before they get married.

Of course In all fairness, nothing will prepare a couple for all that life will throw at them. Men  and women can only learn so much no matter how long they end up dating. Surprises will come up in any relationship so the trick is to stay connected and in love so that any challenge can be met head on.

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