Check this book out. I believe the insights into the male mind at work can give you helpful tips on dating. That’s right! Dating!

While the author explores the male thought process at work, I don’t believe for a second that her insights won’t also help you while dating.

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How many is too many?

Would dating someone who has 300 orgasms per day sound appealing to you?

Would there be a dating line in the orgasmic sand for you?

Would you try to keep up? Could you? Should you?

Should this lady see a doctor? Is there a cure? Is this a sickness? Are we the ones who are sick for not having so many?

Whatever your answers might be, there is one multi-orgasmic woman in this world that has found her man! I say if she can find Mr. Right, why can’t you?

Dating, relating and orgasiming don’t have to be so hard!

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Maryanne tackles trust in this dating diamond. Enjoy!

I can remember getting what for me was my first big break in my budding media career. I squealed with delight when the producer called from a popular syndicated radio show asking to interview me. My heart pounded, my mouth went dry ~ I had worked so hard and now it seemed things were about to unfold. I was ecstatic.
After I enthusiastically accepted the invitation, naturally I couldn’t wait to tell the three people closest to me (okay, and a few strangers along the way, I couldn’t contain myself). The funny thing was, the one person I thought would be the happiest for me was anything but. Upset by his confusing affect, I pressed the matter. “Aren’t you happy for me? This is what I have worked so hard for, to get the message out there, but you seem upset?” He looked at me and unexpectedly said, “Now what, you’re going to be some big star and have to start traveling. I don’t want to be with someone who …” He didn’t finish the sentence. He didn’t have to, as it turned out; his attitude towards me and my being successful was a major culprit in ending our relationship a few painful years and many missed opportunities later. Opportunities that I passed up, afraid he would leave me if I didn’t.
It would take me years to identify and learn the importance of surrounding myself with supportive people. The mutual flow of respect and support is essential to all healthy, sustainable relationships. Whether friends or lovers, we all want to believe those closest to us want for us to thrive, to fulfill our dreams and to achieve inner and outer success. Yet when this isn’t our experience, we might want to look more closely at the nature of these relationships.

Tomorrow’s exciting conclusion will show you the signs of un-supportive relationships – dating relationships or otherwise! Stay tuned!

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Guest blogger Maryanne Comaroto gives you a primer on how to look for and obtain a sustainable relationship. That is to say one that lasts from dating to mating and then on to communicating!

When you think about sustainability, what comes to mind—global warming, going green, doing your part to lessen your carbon footprint? How about dating relationships? We should compost old relationships and only get involved with organic people? Not exactly, no. Although the concept is intriguing, this would be implausible for most of us, given our cultural proclivity towards big “relationship footprints.”
If you have had a few relationships you know what I mean by “sustainability,” especially ones that have been a source of pain or suffering to some degree. (Some of which have compelled you to dispose of them by almost any means, organic or not.) But what of the ones you wish to keep, nurture and grow rather than watch die prematurely or unexpectedly? Given all the energy most of us spend putting ourselves “out there” on the emotional and dating limb (oftentimes left with nothing more than a “seed,” or perhaps less some seed, as the case may be), let’s wise up and turn those seeds into wisdom. Let’s instead get on with how to make our lives fertile so that we can more optimally attract and create more healthy, fulfilling, sustainable relationships. Ones that have the greatest potential for an amazing harvest, for season after season to come.
Dating can be complicated, given the myriad of unique nuances that make up any one individual, the layers of experiences that create the filters we each see reality through. The real enigma seems to be a matter of skill and planning—how to create a optimal climate for potential for growth within this human complexity. Just like plants, relationships grow and flourish under optimal circumstances and care as well.
Okay, enough with the plant metaphor. You get it (hopefully). The deal is that if we come to a dating relationship broken up, with some serious unexamined baggage, expecting to attract great relationships, odds are the next one will end up much the same—in disappointment and regret. At some point, as I have said many times, you gotta be thinking, “Hey, maybe it’s not just them.” Friends, dates and lovers alike, we need to bring our “A” game to the party and expect nothing less from our prospective playmates and potential soulmates as well.

I’ll conclude this Dating Diamond tomorrow so be ready!

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Maryanne Comorato gives you another look into dating and relationships as only she can. Enjoy!

My mother told me I was lucky if I could count all my real friends on one hand!
Must have been fifteen or so years ago now, when it occurred to me after a string of disappointing dating relationships that maybe she was right—again. That it might be wise to invest more time in creating some deep and lasting friendships, as they theoretically seemed to have greater staying power and could be in many ways equally fulfilling, perhaps in some ways even more.
I must add that, up until that that point, my history with friendships was rather sketchy and my role models even more so. My mother barely trusted women (her best friend slept with my dad) and my father, well, made a lot of offers people couldn’t refuse. Childhood aside, the relationship skills I had gathered afforded me as many pleasant and happy memories as traumatic or forgettable ones. Over the years, many of the friendships had been more fragile than I liked, and oftentimes out of balance one way or the other. Either I was too needy or too unavailable, or our lifestyles were not totally compatible—being a single mom certainly didn’t help. Yet, the ones I did maintain (for whatever length of time) offered a mutual comfort that, when absent, left me yearning for that very specific kind of connection that only a platonic camaraderie offers—one that, no matter how compatible, a sexual relationship does not.
Finding this handful of friends is, in many cases, no easy task; especially given the cultural fad of vapid, disposable, let’s-do-lunch, I-love-you-after-five-minutes, overweening, entitled, texting, emotionally handicapped, walking wounded human beings most of us act like. And that’s before you even get to hello. Finding your peeps, as they say, isn’t as easy as it seems but, like all good things, is definitely worth the work!

This guest post will conclude Monday with more hands on tips for making your dating life the very best it can be.

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Come on ladies! I know what you’re thinking! I can read you like the back of a book and I know you like the back of my hand.

What exactly do I know?

I know that you have been wondering for a long time what it would be like to be dating Rosanne’s Tom Arnold!

Now that you know don’t you feel much better?

Whether it’s dating Tom Arnold or someone else, dating doesn’t have to be so hard!

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Maryanne Comaroto lays it all out on a silver dating platter so check her latest guest post out!

Here’s the deal. Most of us approach our dating relationships like drunken sailors, intoxicated with the ideas and fantasies we have about relationship as opposed to the sobering reality of them, and desperate (or lonely, as the case may be) like your ship has just come in—or is about to leave port. Not a great strategy if you want a great relationship.
So, get a piece of paper and write these things down:
1) First, what do you want? (spell it out)
2) What are you willing to do about it?
I know, I have said this before, but let’s take a closer look—trust me. Let’s start with number 1: What do you want? On your paper, across from each item you have listed in your want column, write down what you have instead. For example;
I WANT I HAVE
An ideal partner, someone to share my life with I am single and live alone
A big house with 3 kids, a dog and live near the water I live in the city, small flat w/a fish
To be debt-free and have 1 million dollars in the bank I am in between careers and in debt

Whatever the case is, write it down. The space in between what you have and what you want, let’s call your motivational crevasse. For some this may seem gaping, for others totally achievable. Which brings us to number 2: What are you willing to do about it?

I’ll conclude this dating diamond tomorrow so stay tuned!

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This dating diamond concludes from guest blogger, Maryanne Comaroto’s Tuesday post.

So I would say to this couple, go for it! IF they have managed in this three-week period to establish the following, at minimum:

Their top three non-negotiables.

If this person is worthy of their unconditional devotion and respect.

A strong “out” clause or good consciousness agreement.

If they themselves are a strong, loyal, devoted, trustworthy partner.

They have revealed all their deep secrets or habits that have the potential to destroy the relationship if not revealed and healed.

They have cleaned up all their past dating relationships.

Have the capacity to tell the truth despite the consequences, and see the value of truth as a cornerstone of their relationship.

Love each other’s friends and current daily lifestyle.

Have agreed upon children and child-rearing responsibilities.

Understand and are in alignment about money.

They are confident in each other’s ability to negotiate their feelings and concerns responsibly.

Know what each other values most in life.

Have shared and are in alignment and support of their 10-year plan.

Have agreed to see someone (either within the family or outside) to act as an unbiased counselor, to help support the relationship should they get stuck or feel they cannot resolve any matter that has the potential to end the relationship.

This, I believe, would afford them a good start. While dating relationships are a great breeding ground for personal development, chemistry as a litmus test for the potential of a relationship is too often a crash-and-burn method & can be quite painful. Rather than each failed relationship being a lesson learned, the pain becomes either fuel for the next one or a barrier to intimacy.

In our 20s we are at a peak in some ways, in terms of learning about who we are and who we are not, and oftentimes get into relationships based largely on chemistry—without having acquired some essential relationship tools and turned them into skills. Life will teach them soon enough. The good news is, if they really want a healthy relationship they are in a position to develop these skills, provided they have interviewed each other and revealed their shadows and non-negotiables to each other. Some of these deal-breakers, like infidelity or drug or alcohol addiction, are things that you want to know before you get married, not after!

Hard to establish trust when you have had so little time to see if the person’s words and actions match up. If you are in a rush, and clearly Khloe and Lamar seem to be, I’d advise them to take some time before Sunday to drop in with each other, because having a success plan is important! Bottom line, at least half of marriages end in divorce. If you want it to work, make sure you are prepared and have what it takes to make that happen.

To re-cap:

Hard to negotiate your needs after the marriage ceremony; double check your non-negotiables, you two!
What do you want and expect from each other & the marriage: do you both want kids, how will you share your money, or not? I call this a consciousness agreement.

What kind of relationship skills do you bring to the table? Do you have issues with commitment and intimacy, do you have a track record of being able to stay and hang in there when things get tough? “Looks good, feels good” isn’t going to cut it when things get sideways…these things are very difficult to negotiate after you already have established a pattern. Talk about it. What are you committing to?
Happily Ever After is not a place, and chemistry is not enough to keep a relationship together. They say that, in unconsciousness, the thing that brings you together in a relationship will be the thing that pulls you apart. What is your foundation for your relationship? I recommend spirit, God or the divine, and having a real practice.

Love is a choice and a privilege, not a sentence, so act like it!

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OK, this is probably fake but Dr. Phil could be in trouble.

Between Letterman and Dr. Phil, much has been said about how men conduct themselves in the workplace.

Love, romance and dating are hard enough without adding the complications of the workplace to the mix.

Whether dating at work or just trying to navigate through your day, it’s best to know exactly what to say while there.

Improve your communication skills and I think you’ll improve your life so what are you waiting for?

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As a follow up to yesterday’s Crack the Dating Code post, I thought it only fair to cover the other side of the now infamous dating love triangle, Robert “Joe” Halderman.

You read that correctly. I’m calling this whole farce a love triangle!

What exactly do I mean by this?

As I’ve written about before, the male brain is suspicious and downright jealous of any male that comes your way. His brain can’t help but be jealous. The male brain has never and will never be 100% certain of paternity and as such, jealously guards the females he mates with.

Joe Halderman actions, in my opinion, are a classic example of this jealous behavior. He was dating Stephanie Birkitt at some point and also new that she had had sex with David Letterman. It’s therefore quite possible that his mind was seething with jealous rage and then had to extract vengeance on her former lover, David Letterman.

Now, don’t get me wrong. The guy you’re dating is probably not a raving lunatic, but it’s his brain you’ve got to worry about.

What actions can you take to never engage the jealous male brain? For one, never talk about your former lovers. The guys you were dating in the past are nothing to you and as such should not be mentioned. And under no circumstances should you ever talk about the men you have had sex with in the past. You are a virtual virgin or to put it another way don’t ask don’t tell!

Dating and mating doesn’t have to so hard!

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