People in situations similar to Elin’s typically need something to pour themselves into after such a catastrophe and it’s not uncommon to put even more effort into one’s family. But without properly working through the root causes of each issue, all the family focus or “brushes with death” in the world won’t be enough to put lives back together. Is there a way to know when you’re ready to move forward with a relationship after something so painful? There isn’t one easy answer to that question but I believe healing can begin to start between a couple when it’s started individually.

I encourage people in this situation to use “Smart Heart” skills and dialogue to cure the Bio Chemical Craving for Connection – this creates a safe place of communication where each partner can be honest about their shortcomings and fears. Divorces occur as people do not have the tools to cure this disease, it is treatable/curable and forgivable when treated properly.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is known as the “Adultery Buster” and the #1 Love Expert in the World. She is the author of the Best Selling book Make Up Don’t Break Up (second edition due out March 2010 with accompanying DVD “Falling in Love and Staying in Love for Singles and Couples”) as well as Adultery the Forgivable Sin. Dr. Bonnie focuses on couples, singles and families (including children and her innovative theory- Family Play Therapy) For further information on Adultery/Addictions and how to how to cushion the pain a child feels – please visit www.doctorbonnie.com for contact info.

COMING UP: Discovery Health Channel “Unfaithful” featuring Dr. Bonnie and her patients on adultery/cybersex. 9pm EST, April 4th

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I guess nerd dating is all the rage these days if the tabloids are to be believed. From golf nerd Tiger Woods to political nerd Peter Orszag, beautiful women are lining up to get in on the nerdly action.

Many are aghast at this turn of events, but scientists would tell us that this is par for the evolutionary course. Par for the course not so much in the golf kind of way but in the sense that women have to choose a man that will stay with them.

Let me explain.

Evolutionary psychologists would suggest that the fundamental choice for a man is how reproductively fecund is the women in front of him. That is to say, the male brain calculates how many ova does an attractive lady have yet to give? The female brain for its part has other worries, chief of which is whether or not the man in front of her will stay after he impregnates her.

Nerds have been a safe bet over the centuries, until now.

From Tiger Words, whose nickname at Stanford was Urkel to  political nerd Peter Orszag, women are being cheated on like never before. No longer can women feel secure with that polite guy whose nose is buried in a math book.

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