The first Maryanne Comaroto guest post of your dating decade has arrived! Maryanne as always offers far more than dating tips and gives you advice that can help you succeed in all areas of your life.

Can you remember what your New Year’s resolutions were last year? How did that work out for you? Let’s see, mine were: to be less judgmental, and to slow down and take myself less seriously. No easy task for the hyper-vigilant monster that dwells deep in (and, unfortunately, outside) my subconscious. In the hopes of luring and capturing this beast of burden, I did what I do every year. I ritually wrote, and spoke aloud my resolve to slay whatever dragons that seemed to genuinely threaten my overall peace of mind and freedom of being. (And then threw in a little petitionary prayer that I would have enough discipline to remember what I just denounced.)

For some of us the ritual of setting New Year’s resolutions is an attempt to temporarily assuage the harsh reality of our lifestyle, for others a gleeful renunciation of inconsequential nonsense because…we can. Yet statistics show us that an overwhelming 40% of folks who resolve to better themselves actually achieve their goals! Here are some helpful tips from an enthusiastic veteran of this annual tradition that can help you succeed, too!

1) First, you may want to review your last attempt at setting your intentions. What did you vow last year? Anything having to do with your dating life? Were you successful? Why, or why not? Maybe your goals were too vague, or not totally sincere, or perhaps a tad unrealistic. Setting achievable goals – wether concerning your dating relationship or not – is an art. Anyone can set them, but is a different thing all together to achieve them. One of my favorite approaches to success is, rather than trying to hit a home run, just concern yourself with getting on base, keeping your eye on home plate all the while!

2) Want it, bad! I notice when I pick something I want to exclude, heal or change about myself or my life, I am almost always successful when I really and truly want it! Therefore, I am willing to stretch myself and do what it takes to make it happen. So you gotta ask yourself, how much do you really want it?

3) Make a public declaration! You don’t need to alert the press (unless, of course, you feel the need), but you might want to gather a few friends (one could work) and declare your resolve. Surrounding yourself with supportive people is an essential part of any success; always has been, and, as far as I can see, always will be. Got cheerleaders? If not, get some! They rock! The more people you have devoted to you succeeding, the better!

Tomorrow’s post will conclude from this one with three more dating tips so stay tuned!

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